BDSM stands for Bondage-Discipline- Sadism-Masochism. There are many areas of sexual arousal that are classified under the umbrella term BDSM, depending on whether you’re more inclined to be a dominant or submissive participant. Bondage usually takes the form of mild punishment; being restrained, often with tethers and restraints of some kind, whilst your punishment is administered. This restraint-punishment can then escalate to intense pain, to the point of possibly being defined as “torture” if you are happy to take it that far, or become aroused by such intense pain. Regardless of what level of BDSM you enjoy, this should always be consensual, played out safely, and kept sanely.
Many couples are discovering that bondage and dominance can be a sensual and erotic experience, a vital approach with which to spice up their sex life and create intimacy and strong bond of trust. One partner is doing the tying and administering; this is the dominant partner (or Dom) and the other is being tied and receiving; the submissive (or Sub). Some couples questioned say that the feeling of being vulnerable, and the suspense of not knowing what is going to happen to them is the turn-on, this is where the implementation of bondage masks and ties becomes very handy. Whereas some prefer the sense of authority – as well as the satisfaction emotionally the Dom gets from being in “command”- that the role of the Dom imparts, as their partner has given them the power of trust and control. It is in this way that the SM side of BDSM makes for a mutually pleasurable experience. Bondage is a sensual discipline of control; alongside the dominance and submission aspects, the participants give in to certain specific emotions and psychology which connect with – and contribute to – intense sexual and physical arousal. Bondage equipment is designed with this in mind so you get to experience some of the ultimate emotions and feelings that items such as floggers can bring, whether you want to tease and tickle your lover’s skin, or create a sharp and stinging thwack! Your lover will not know what they will experience next, which can be highly erotic and arousing.
BDSM can often include other people; there are various clubs and events where people ‘’play’’ with like-minded folk. Many types of restraints, plus leather whips, paddles, erotic clothing, and sex toys, can be incorporated into any scene which these individuals wish to play out. Regardless of how many folks join the party, however, the whip should always come down on the side of safety and consent, so it is best to get to know those you are playing with a little better first off, as everyone has their boundaries and limits, so these must be respected at all times. It is very easy to establish a little BDSM into your sex life, and a great way to add a touch of something new and exciting. There is a massive area of play, pleasure and pain, to be discovered within BDSM and no better to start discovering these things, than with someone you love and trust.
