Skip to main content

Let’s delve deeper into the subject of anal sex! Many gay men have favoured positions and sometimes it’s hard to find a compatible partner, but other times your preferred position (top or bottom) may not be as clear-cut, as some may believe. There seems to be a misconception about guys who prefer to bottom.

This position is regarded as a weakness in some gay communities – an absurd supposition if there ever was one. So don’t presume if you meet a bottom that they are a submissive partner within a relationship, compared to the dominance of a top. Within the majority of gay relationships this simply isn’t the case, and especially when we take a look at some of the most popular male sex toys, it tells a very different story. Being a top or bottom depends on your preference with regards to either giving or receiving during anal sex. Many men like to keep an open mind concerning this, as sex toys may soon get boring if you stick to the same thing, all the time. Strap-ons are a brilliant way to keep things fresh. As these devices can act as an extension of your penis, adding either length or girth. Hollow strap-ons even let you ejaculate as they fit snuggly over the top of your penis, with an opening at the end.

Even if you haven’t had anal sex, you may like to fantasise about a guy taking you, or about you furnishing pleasure to a guy beneath you; your fantasies can take shape when using men’s vibrators, to lead the way discovering what you enjoy. Some guys like to season their play with versatility – they relish being both a bottom and a top. Using a suction cup dildo can help determine how much you would like this, as these toys stay securely fastened to any surface. Go with what your body says, not your head; sex without anxiety is always the best, and there is no better way than to experience sex without the hang-ups than to experiment with adult devices. Of course, if you are feeling curious, or hesitant, about anal sex, then using adult items are a great way to take things at your own pace and slowly. Explore your sexual boundaries in a safe way.

So whether you see yourself as a bottom, top or being versatile, the most important thing is, that you feel comfortable within the bedroom and there is no better way than to explore your sexuality on your own terms with top quality toys. Of course, if you ever feel any discomfort, you should slow down or stop. But rest assured with a little self-exploration, you will be on the road to gaining a happy and fulfilling sex life.